Born in America + Made in China + Dead in Doha + Reincarnated in Kathmandu

As my fortieth approaches, I reflect on a journey that has been anything but linear. My path has been a global odyssey marked by a series of transformations that have shaped me. I can honestly say that I've spent half of my life abroad, having relocated to Beijing when I was twenty. I often say, with a mix of humour and solemnity, that I was "born in America, made in China," where the crucible of adulthood forged my early identity, "dead in Doha," where the challenges of living authentically amidst stringent societal norms felt stifling, and finally "reincarnated in Kathmandu," the city where I discovered my fullest expression.

This slogan encapsulates the essence of my experiences across continents and cultures. My career began with the tactile world of pottery and sculpture in China, a place that moulded my youthful enthusiasm into mature craftsmanship. It was here, amidst the vibrant chaos and ancient tranquillity, that I transitioned from a foreign student to an integral part of the local fabric, embracing the complexities of a culture vastly different from mine.

The transition to Doha presented a stark contrast, marked by professional growth and personal introspection. In Qatar, my work in art conservation science evolved into a nuanced engagement with history, reflecting a dedicated pursuit to protect our heritage for future generations. I particularly valued the focus on Islamic history, a field frequently underestimated in depth and richness. Yet, it was also in Doha that I confronted the realities of living in a place where my identity was not just unacknowledged but illegal. This chapter of my life felt like an ending, a conclusion to a part of me that could not fully exist in such confines.

In Kathmandu, my story changed profoundly. The lively streets, the mix of cultures, and the welcoming spirit of Nepal revived me. Under the Himalayas' vastness, I found a new beginning. Kathmandu became both scene and sanctuary for my next chapter, blending my love for stop-motion, advocacy for LGBTQ+ rights, and scholarly interest in Sanskrit. I served as a college Principal and sat on the USEF Nepal board, managing Fulbright grants.

This city has become the confluence of my past experiences and present endeavours, where I can weave the threads of my diverse interests into a coherent whole. Here, I've found the freedom to explore the complexities of identity, culture, and creativity without reservation. Much like my appreciation for durian, with its divisive yet richly rewarding flavours, Kathmandu has taught me the value of embracing the unconventional, the misunderstood, and the complex. 

To some, durian's aroma is akin to a rotten sock, an immediate deterrent. To me, Durian represents the complexity of experience, with its scent reminiscent of unpasteurised hard cider and apple brandy, and its flavours a delicate balance of chives, powdered sugar, chopped garlic, and caramel—each bite a surprising fusion of egg almond custard and the succulent texture of perfectly cooked white meat. With its divisive taste profile, this appreciation for durian mirrors my life's path: one that challenges conventions embraces complexity, and celebrates the richness of diversity.

Reflecting on my journey—"born in America, made in China, dead in Doha, and reincarnated in Kathmandu"—I am reminded that our lives are composed of chapters, each with its own challenges, lessons, and transformations. As I approach the milestone of 40, I do so with a profound gratitude for the journey thus far and an eager anticipation for the upcoming adventures. The essence of my experiences, encapsulated in my personal slogan, reminds me that identity is not a static entity but a fluid and evolving narrative, rich with the possibility of continuous rebirth and discovery. It's a reminder that our identities are fluid, shaped by the myriad experiences and cultures we immerse ourselves in. 

This evolution isn't unique to me; it's a universal aspect of the human condition. I invite you to ponder your own life's journey. What slogans could encapsulate your chapters? How have your experiences carved out the person you are today? Like the durian, our stories might be misunderstood by some but are deeply cherished by those who take the time to delve beneath the surface.